The delights of fellatio were probably savored even in the dawn of
civilization. Maybe the early Middle Easterners learned it in the
most natural manner: by observing nature, that is, by watching
domesticated and wild animals licking each other's genitals - Thus,
from natural observation, investigation, and experimentation, emerge
the arts of love. As the Old Testament so often reminds us, the Jews
were surrounded by incorrigible sodomites, the Babylonians,
Philistines, Chaldeas, Egyptians, etc., who, we can be sure, didn't
ignore penis-sucking when it came time to having a good time. There
are very old Egyptian pictures that seem to suggest fellatory
activity.
In ancient Greece, fellatio was known as "playing the flute." Its
praises were sung by Greek and Roman Poets, and so it must have been
fairly widespread. Priapus comments, "Through the middle of boys and
girls travels the member; when it meets beaded chins then it aspires
to the heights." The Roman poet Martial counsels an aging
friend, "Why do you plague in vain unhappy vulvas and posteriors;
gain but the heights, for there any old member revives." And the
poet Lucian mentions the fellatory rape of the Syrian Timarchus....
In India the art of fellatio has a long history, going back perhaps
to the birth of Christ. One of the first love manuals, the Kama
Sutra (ca. 100-300 A.D.) has a whole chapter on Oparishtaka, "mouth
congress" saying that: "The male servants of some men carry on the
mouth congress with their masters. It is also practiced by some
citizens, who know each other well, among themselves."
In India it is also known as mukhamethuna ("oral churning") and
ambarchusi ("mango-fruit sucking").
Fellatio has been highly praised from North Africa eastward,
being "common and customary among all classes and races," often
deemed even more intimate and enrapturing than genital union,
perhaps because oral excitation yields the most acute and intense
pleasure. The sensations produced by the caressing mouth of one's
beloved seem more ardent and enravishing than those produced by the
penis or vagina.
In Turkey, it's felt that fellatio allows greater variety and
subtler nuances of pleasure than vaginal or anal activity, which are
more or less restricted in their execution and effect. In a word, as
the Turks say, "Penis sucking is better than fucking!"
Throughout the Arab world, the slang word for fellatio is "qerdz".
In Tunisia, Egypt, Arabia, Persia, Afghanistan, and farther, to
Malaya, from which there is this sex-party account: "The scene is
the same all over the room. While the man lies at full length on a
couch or sits reclined in a chair, the boy --kneeling or stooping--
holds and kisses his penis, sucks it, and receives the emission of
semen in his mouth, right up to the very last drop."
In all, there are many places in the world where the finer joys were
and are savored and cultivated. The "Arabian voluptuary," as
Victorian England knew him, or the "damnable Toork" of an earlier
era, could appreciate a darting tongue, wet, firm lips, and sucked-
in cheeks clinging to a quivering stalk.
Basic Penis Education
LOOK at your partners penis, examine it and see how wonderfully
created it is for your sexual pleasure.
The shaft, the head (technically the glans penis, with glans coming
from the Latin which means "acorn"). Look at it closely. The outside
of the glans penis is the corona. This joins the head to the shaft.
This is the most sensitive part on the penis and where most of your
attention should be in giving oral sex.
On the underside of the glans there is a point of juncture where the
two ends of this irregular circle come together. If the male is not
circumcised, this will be where the foreskin is attached. This tiny
area is the most sexually sensitive spot on his entire body, and is
similar to the woman's clitoris. It may be possible to bring your
partner to a climax simply by gently tapping the tip of your tongue
directly on it.
Beneath the glans is the shaft of the penis. The shaft does not have
many nerve endings and does not, therefore, provide a man with any
high degree of stimulation when caressed either manually or with
your tongue to the exclusion of the glans penis itself. It always
amazes me to note the number of women who believe that sucking up
and down on the shaft will get the guy off. That's not it, folks! If
it works it is because the back of your throat is playing tricks on
his glans penis. Your throat is giving head to his head!
Beneath the shaft are the testicles. The testicles ("balls" in
slang) are extremely sensitive to pain and are not usually
considered subject to erotic stimulation to any particular degree.
Not true! You can add a high degree of pleasure for him by paying
the right kind of attention to the testicles. The opening in the tip
of the glans penis is the meatus. Here is where the cum spurts.
The sad fact is that most people, men and women, do not have the
slightest idea of how to suck a penis. Most seem to think that
simply by making a cunt of their mouth, closing it around a man's
penis, and bobbing their heads lustily up and down until he climaxes
automatically makes them an expert. Au contraire!
Consummate skill is required to suck a man and provide him with the
highest degree of pleasure possible. When a woman first starts her
quest she usually has no one to turn to for advise and counsel. It
was all hunt and suck. Hunt and suck. Find that one technique that
could and would set him on fire! Also some men are more stimulated
by oral sex than others. For most men it is very stimulating but for
others its not.
In order for you to observe your man's reactions and get the most
information possible about his responses, try the following:
While his erect penis points toward the ceiling, cup his balls in
one hand and gently, using only your tongue, lick softly, but
carefully along the entire underside of his erect organ. As you suck
along the underbelly you will learn those areas that give him the
greatest pleasure when your tongue is touching them. Unless he is
made of stone, your partner will provide you with vivid clues as to
which areas are most pleasurable.
As you discover these areas of enhanced pleasure, concentrate on
them. For most men the most sensitive area will be the point where
the ring (or corona) of the head and the foreskin are attached. Or
were attached prior to his circumcision. By continued licking and
tapping along this area with your tongue you may bring forth a
geyser. If you are not skilled and you want to please him in a hurry
I suggest that you get him off in this manner in order to become
familiar at first hand with the nature and delight of his climax.
As he is getting ready for climax you will note changes in his
penis. These signs will be the same every time he climaxes so that
you can prepare for his cum properly. The head of the penis may
swell somewhat larger then it is during the normal course of his
erection. He may thrust his hips forward as he wants to send his
body hurtling out his penis with his cum. And for most men,
immediately prior to the cum, there will appear at the tiny, lovely
lips at the tip of the penis a clear drop or two of fluid. When you
see this or feel the opening at the meateus through his condom you
know that the moment of truth is at hand. Launch the torpedoes, full
cum ahead!
Where should you be when you are sucking his penis? Between his
legs, on top of him, in a sixty nine position? Where? Because of the
structure of his penis, as well as the structure of your mouth,
lips, tongue, and teeth, you can provide the highest degree of
sensation to yourself and your partner by kneeling between his legs
and approaching his penis from the bottom rather than from the side
or the top.
Place his stiff penis inside your mouth but do not tighten your lips
around the shaft. With your head begin a circle motion. The penis
will slide to different places in your mouth as you continue the
circle motion. Watch your teeth on this one. A kneeling position
will suffice but it is also effective when your partner is on his
back and your head is directly over his penis. The circle should be
executed in both clockwise and counterclockwise motions in a slow,
purposeful manner.
With your man sitting in an elevated position and you on your knees
in front of him lift his hard penis to reveal his balls. With your
tongue find the underside of his balls. Now, while resting his balls
on your wet tongue, lick in an upward motion to the very tip of his
penis. It is permissible to use your hands in this technique. It is
better to do this technique several times in succession-like licking
a lollipop or ice cream cone.
Right now lets discuss a technique that is probably the most common
penissucking technique in the world. Take his penis in your mouth
but not deeply. We will get to deep throating later on. It's great,
not over-rated, but if you want to be an expert at deep throat,
start with the right techniques and work your way down, so to speak.
Take his penis in your mouth by sliding your moistened tongue
lovingly over the head until your lips close around the shaft at the
point just behind the corona. Don't just open your mouth and close
it around his penis. Slide it in. He will enjoy it much more. Encase
the shaft of his penis with your hand. Remember the shaft is
relatively insensitive to any kind of stimulation. By enclosing his
penis with your hand you give him the sensation of having his penis
encased.
Now you have several options. Try twisting your head from side to
side making sure your moist lips stay in contact with the coronal
ridge. While doing this gently move your hand up and down the shaft.
When he climaxes he may want to push your head further down the
shaft of his penis. He wants to envelop you with his penis. As you
are learning his climax, you will miss the fine points if you deep
throat at this time. Instead gently suck around the corona as he
climaxes so that you can intensify his pleasure and increase the
force of his orgasm. As you gain more experience you will be able to
tell exactly when his climax is approaching.
There is one further refinement to this basic technique, which will
heighten his orgasm. If you place your thumb at the very base of the
penis in such a way as to block the tube through which the cum
spurts, the semen cannot escape even though he is spasming and going
through the reflex action of ejaculating semen.
If at the same time you suck vigorously on the head of his penis you
can delay his cum for several long moments. When you finally allow
the cum to spurt it will last much longer and be just as intense as
a result. Even though you delay the cum for only a few short
moments, you will be surprised by the intensity of his cum.
These techniques are the basis of penissucking. Do not go beyond
them until you have become an expert, not only in the techniques
themselves, but also in the reading and interpreting of your
partner's responses to such a point that you know exactly how he is
getting off on what you are doing. When you have reached this point,
you are ready for the more subtle, more advanced techniques.
Don't be so slavish that you miss out on the fun of self discovery.
Find out what works for you and for your partner and make your
penissucking as individual as your signature. After all, you want
your man to pick you out in the dark among a hundred slobbering
penissuckers.
One of the first things you encountered when you first started to
suck penis was a gag reflex. Most men seem to want to force their
penis down your throat as far as they can get it. Particularly at
the moment when they cum!
Consider for a moment that the average length of your oral cavity is
three to three and a half inches while the average Caucasian penis
length is five to five and a half inches. The laws of nature would
seem to dictate that getting all that penis into your mouth is an
impossibility.
It can be done. If you understand your anatomy you will begin to
understand the requirements that allow you to take his hard penis
into your mouth and down your throat. The biggest obstacle to taking
all of his penis down your throat is the fact that there is a bend
of almost ninety degrees behind your tongue leading down into your
throat. So the first thing to do is get the penis past that angle.
Get past the angle of the dangle!
In order to practice this, get in a position where you can turn your
head in such a way that your mouth and throat lie almost in a
straight line. The best position to accomplish this is to lie on a
bed so that your head is near the edge with your body sprawled
across the bed so that your head is tipped sharply back. This
position will put your mouth and throat nearly in a line and will
allow your partner to approach you in such a way that insertion of
his penis can be made so deeply that his pubic hair presses against
your lips.
The natural tendency of the body is to gag when a foreign object
such as a deeply thrusting penis is being forced down your throat.
You can overcome this tendency by completely relaxing your throat at
the moment the insertion is made. It is equally important that you
maintain this relaxation during the entire deep throating.
Let him put his penis down your throat and hold it still while you
find the most comfortable way to proceed. Because of your position
you will not be able to move or to offer him any greater stimulation
than simply keeping your mouth tightly closed around his throbbing
penis. If you are able try, to stimulate his underbelly with your
tongue.
You will only be able to relax and take his penis in this way if you
completely trust your partner. Your partner is in full control. He
must initiate and maintain all the motion. This is the only exercise
in which you relinquish your control of the situation to your
partner. He will relish this for the simple fact that for the first
time he can insert his penis as deeply down your throat as he wants
to. Now your partner begins an in and out movement that is just like
fucking. He should start slowly, especially if this is a completely
new experience for the two of you. After all, if he hurts you he
cuts himself off from one of the great pleasures in life. His only
other requirement during this exercise is to keep the motion in the
same direction throughout this oral exercise, as there is simply no
leeway for him to vary the motion from side to side.
One other word of caution. Don't let your partner get carried away
at the moment he starts to cum. At that spectacular moment he will
be able for the first time to thrust his penis all the way inside
your oral cavity and that is the most important lesson of this
exercise! His only other requirement during the exercise is to keep
the motion in the same direction against your lips as he cums.
Because of your position in bed you will not be faced with the
problem of swallowing his cum. The reason is because he has gotten
his penis BEYOND your gag reflex! Without a condemn his cum will
shoot directly into your stomach! If both you and your partner
understand what it is that you are trying to do, as well as the
possible problems that may "cum" up along the way, no harm or
discomfort will happen to either of you.
It is possible that not everyone will learn the "deep throat"
technique, but this inability does not make you any less a
penissucker. You must allow your throat to relax completely while
your partner is thrusting his penis this deeply down your throat. To
do this long enough for your partner to completely get it off is
very difficult and may require lots of practice. It may be that you
will be able to take your partner completely down your throat, but
you will not be able to maintain proper relaxation of your throat
until he shoots his load. Hopefully your partner will understand
that this is not a rejection of him or of what he is offering you,
and it is my sincere desire that you not stop here and think that
you will never master the "deep throat" technique.
Cum is a curious thing. It's taste varies from person to person,
mild to tangy. It's good stuff nutritionally, being mostly protein
and minerals; it's the minerals that give the unique flavor. Take it
or leave it, there's nothing wrong with it, and it can turn out to
be quite a nice treat.
If you want to swallow it without hassle, take the climax deep in
your mouth, and remember, "in each and every case, the faster it is
swallowed, the less time the taste remains." Vomiting, noisy
hawkings, or dashing to the bathroom can be very rude and demeaning
to someone who's just climaxed, so if you don't want to swallow it,
remove it quietly afterwards, into a handy towel or handkerchief. Or
if you like, things can always be switched from fellatio to
masturbation or something else beforehand, but don't do this too
close to orgasm.
THRUSTING
So far I've been talking about fellatio where one person lays back
and gets sucked off. There's another kind too, where one person
slides his penis in and out of his friend's mouth. The Romans really
liked this kind of fellatio, and called it "irrumatio". It gives a
different experience to the person being fellated, because he's the
one moving. He's more tense and active, he's controlling his
experience much more so than in the other style, and he's moving his
penis in an action called thrusting, which in itself can be a
different and enjoyable sensation.
If you and your partner want to try this, have him lie down on his
back with a pillow under his head. Then you straddle him with your
hands and knees so that your crotch is over his face, and your head
is above his. Move around until you can easily fit your penis into
his mouth. He should make his mouth wet and form a snug ring with
his lips around your shaft, as he'd do for the sliding action
described earlier. He should suck on your penis, and otherwise keep
still.
Now you want to slide you penis in and out. This thrusting is
learned, and the only way to learn is by doing. Without moving your
knees or using your hands, move your penis with your hips. Ask him
to be patient and just experiment. Ask yourself, how in the world
can I get myself to move in and out, and try out your muscles?
Imagine a point at the base of your penis, and you want to cause
this point to push out and up through your penis, and them pull back
again. Everyone free of paralysis can do thrusting, if they want to.
Just take your time and explore. Follow your sensations - see what
feels good and do it again. Having an experienced guide or helper
can be very useful too.
That's basically all there is to it. You can add things like rocking
your pelvis from side to side or circularly (called "grinding"). Or
your partner can rock his head from side to side, or move it up and
back to meet your strokes, or use his tongue if he likes. Also,
there are lots of different positions, standing, kneeling, and so
on. Many couples like to work out there own ways. I'm saying, here
are possibilities; there you are- explore, take what you want, and
enjoy!
Some people can get into this second kind of fellatio, others don't
like it. A frequent complaint is that the mouth-partner felt abused,
that he had no control and the other thrust too deeply or violently,
causing gagging, fear, or other troubles. This needn't happen if the
two people can talk freely, and respect their own and each other's
wants and needs. You might be able to work something out with the
following suggestions:
Awareness: if you're thrusting, you can be aware of your friend's
comfort level, and with a little care, regulate the depth and
strength of your thrusts.
Pausing: try pausing for a moment between thrusts.
The Stopper Technique: if your friend is thrusting in your mouth,
you can have some control by wrapping one hand around his lower
shaft, to use as a stopper, allowing only as much as you like. If
your hand is at the base, this also adds a pleasurable pressure
against this body. You (or your partner) can use the hand to
masturbate the lower part of his penis as the top part slides in and
out, moving the hand down to the base as the penis slides in.
Mutuality: in irrumatio, the mouth-partner is likely to get bored,
and this contributes a lot to feeling abused. There are some
positions that allow mutual fondling, where he can caress you, and
in others the mouth partner can masturbate himself.
Can I make my seminal fluids taste better?
Macrobiotic nutritionists have actually done research on this
question, and the answer is in: you are what you eat. Common sense
dictates that if you taste good, your lover will want to eat you
more often, so improving your body's taste and smell should be
important to you.
In general, nutritionists say that alkaline-based foods such as
meats and fish produce a bitter, fish taste. Dairy products, which
contain a high bacterial putrefaction level create the foulest
tasting fluids by far. (Dissent: almost everyone I know says that
there is one worse than a high-dairy content - asparagus. You can't
miss the taste of asparagus-laced semen.) Acidic fruits, such as
sweets, fruits, and alcohol give bodily fluids a pleasant, sugary
flavor. Chemically processed liquors will cause an extremely acidic
taste, however, so if you're going to drink alcohol, drink high-
quality, naturally fermented beers (Rolling Rock or Kirin) or sake.
What are the contents of semen?
The question of semen content arises especially among persons who
regularly swallow semen, as in fellatio, and who are concerned about
calorie intake and nutritional substances. The average ejaculate
contains aboutonia, ascorbic acid, blood-group antigens, calcium,
chlorine, cholesterol, choline, citric acid, creatine,
deoxyribonucleic acid (DNA), fructose, glutathione, hyaluronidase,
inositol, lactic acid, magnesium, nitrogen, phosphorus, potassium,
purine, pyrimidine, pyruvic acid, sodium, sorbitol, spermidine,
spermine, urea, uric acid, vitamin b12, and zinc.
The caloric content of an average ejaculate is estimated to be
approximately 15 calories.
There is only one true way to do fellatio, and that's with
enthusiasm. You have to love what you're doing to him, either
because you love him or you love sucking cock. Loving both is best!
Faked orgasms have nothing on lackluster fellatio.
"The 'basilar squeeze technique' was mentioned in the article,
although not by that name. While it's true that strong pressure to
the urethra at the base of the penis before orgasm can prevent the
FLOW of ejaculate, once the proper brain response has been
initiated, ejaculation cannot be prevented! My caution, then, is
that your readers not think just by 'clamping down' that an orgasm
can be prevented or substantially delayed. A healthy male very
likely WILL ejaculate...either very forcefully through the urethra --
which can be a very different and pleasurable sensation; think of a
pinched-off garden hose - or internally, into the bladder, in what
is known as a 'retrograde ejaculation.' Ouch, sometimes. I'm not
condemning the technique, as it certainly has its uses, which I'll
go into below... I'm just urging fellaters not to overdo it.
There are actually two stages of male ejaculation: 'pre-ejaculation'
and ejaculation proper. I personally can't really tell the
difference when they occur (my mind tends to be a bit, uh, occupied
at the time) unless I experience the first without the second.
Orgasms start in the mind, after all.... it's the
cortex/midbrain/body link that actually produces those spectacular
physical results. Most men can experience pre-ejaculation without
proceeding right on to ejaculation, although it can take a lot of
self-control to find out. The sensations of pre-ejaculation are
almost identical to complete orgasm...except the 'floating', inward
turn of the mind can actually last longer. It's here that the
squeeze technique can be useful, if the fellater STOPS stimulation,
and *gently* squeezes the base of the penis just moments before full
orgasm.
It's worth noting, too, that men can have a sort of 'multiple
orgasm' in this way: they can feel like they've come, without
actually ejaculating fully...and then after a few seconds without
stimulation, go on again for some time...repeat as much as you can.
When complete orgasm with ejaculation finally occurs, if it occurs
in a similar manner as the previous 'pre-orgasms', it can be a very
slow, drawn-out, gently powerful orgasm, rather than the short sharp
shocks of a wham-bang bout of lovemaking."
Proper breathing is also a factor. When you relax your throat and
your partner is thrusting, you can not draw a breath while the penis
is in your throat. Being able to relax your throat is one half of
it, but taking breaths as your partner pulls back, or as you pull
back is the other half. This requires some practice. The first
reaction is to panic - that you might not have enough air or be able
to breath normally, but I have found that most of the trust issue
comes from knowing that your partner will pull back at certain,
predictable intervals - this gives you time to take a breath or
breath out. In my own case, I breath in on one pull, breath out on
the second, breath in on the next, etc.
civilization. Maybe the early Middle Easterners learned it in the
most natural manner: by observing nature, that is, by watching
domesticated and wild animals licking each other's genitals - Thus,
from natural observation, investigation, and experimentation, emerge
the arts of love. As the Old Testament so often reminds us, the Jews
were surrounded by incorrigible sodomites, the Babylonians,
Philistines, Chaldeas, Egyptians, etc., who, we can be sure, didn't
ignore penis-sucking when it came time to having a good time. There
are very old Egyptian pictures that seem to suggest fellatory
activity.
In ancient Greece, fellatio was known as "playing the flute." Its
praises were sung by Greek and Roman Poets, and so it must have been
fairly widespread. Priapus comments, "Through the middle of boys and
girls travels the member; when it meets beaded chins then it aspires
to the heights." The Roman poet Martial counsels an aging
friend, "Why do you plague in vain unhappy vulvas and posteriors;
gain but the heights, for there any old member revives." And the
poet Lucian mentions the fellatory rape of the Syrian Timarchus....
In India the art of fellatio has a long history, going back perhaps
to the birth of Christ. One of the first love manuals, the Kama
Sutra (ca. 100-300 A.D.) has a whole chapter on Oparishtaka, "mouth
congress" saying that: "The male servants of some men carry on the
mouth congress with their masters. It is also practiced by some
citizens, who know each other well, among themselves."
In India it is also known as mukhamethuna ("oral churning") and
ambarchusi ("mango-fruit sucking").
Fellatio has been highly praised from North Africa eastward,
being "common and customary among all classes and races," often
deemed even more intimate and enrapturing than genital union,
perhaps because oral excitation yields the most acute and intense
pleasure. The sensations produced by the caressing mouth of one's
beloved seem more ardent and enravishing than those produced by the
penis or vagina.
In Turkey, it's felt that fellatio allows greater variety and
subtler nuances of pleasure than vaginal or anal activity, which are
more or less restricted in their execution and effect. In a word, as
the Turks say, "Penis sucking is better than fucking!"
Throughout the Arab world, the slang word for fellatio is "qerdz".
In Tunisia, Egypt, Arabia, Persia, Afghanistan, and farther, to
Malaya, from which there is this sex-party account: "The scene is
the same all over the room. While the man lies at full length on a
couch or sits reclined in a chair, the boy --kneeling or stooping--
holds and kisses his penis, sucks it, and receives the emission of
semen in his mouth, right up to the very last drop."
In all, there are many places in the world where the finer joys were
and are savored and cultivated. The "Arabian voluptuary," as
Victorian England knew him, or the "damnable Toork" of an earlier
era, could appreciate a darting tongue, wet, firm lips, and sucked-
in cheeks clinging to a quivering stalk.
Basic Penis Education
LOOK at your partners penis, examine it and see how wonderfully
created it is for your sexual pleasure.
The shaft, the head (technically the glans penis, with glans coming
from the Latin which means "acorn"). Look at it closely. The outside
of the glans penis is the corona. This joins the head to the shaft.
This is the most sensitive part on the penis and where most of your
attention should be in giving oral sex.
On the underside of the glans there is a point of juncture where the
two ends of this irregular circle come together. If the male is not
circumcised, this will be where the foreskin is attached. This tiny
area is the most sexually sensitive spot on his entire body, and is
similar to the woman's clitoris. It may be possible to bring your
partner to a climax simply by gently tapping the tip of your tongue
directly on it.
Beneath the glans is the shaft of the penis. The shaft does not have
many nerve endings and does not, therefore, provide a man with any
high degree of stimulation when caressed either manually or with
your tongue to the exclusion of the glans penis itself. It always
amazes me to note the number of women who believe that sucking up
and down on the shaft will get the guy off. That's not it, folks! If
it works it is because the back of your throat is playing tricks on
his glans penis. Your throat is giving head to his head!
Beneath the shaft are the testicles. The testicles ("balls" in
slang) are extremely sensitive to pain and are not usually
considered subject to erotic stimulation to any particular degree.
Not true! You can add a high degree of pleasure for him by paying
the right kind of attention to the testicles. The opening in the tip
of the glans penis is the meatus. Here is where the cum spurts.
The sad fact is that most people, men and women, do not have the
slightest idea of how to suck a penis. Most seem to think that
simply by making a cunt of their mouth, closing it around a man's
penis, and bobbing their heads lustily up and down until he climaxes
automatically makes them an expert. Au contraire!
Consummate skill is required to suck a man and provide him with the
highest degree of pleasure possible. When a woman first starts her
quest she usually has no one to turn to for advise and counsel. It
was all hunt and suck. Hunt and suck. Find that one technique that
could and would set him on fire! Also some men are more stimulated
by oral sex than others. For most men it is very stimulating but for
others its not.
In order for you to observe your man's reactions and get the most
information possible about his responses, try the following:
While his erect penis points toward the ceiling, cup his balls in
one hand and gently, using only your tongue, lick softly, but
carefully along the entire underside of his erect organ. As you suck
along the underbelly you will learn those areas that give him the
greatest pleasure when your tongue is touching them. Unless he is
made of stone, your partner will provide you with vivid clues as to
which areas are most pleasurable.
As you discover these areas of enhanced pleasure, concentrate on
them. For most men the most sensitive area will be the point where
the ring (or corona) of the head and the foreskin are attached. Or
were attached prior to his circumcision. By continued licking and
tapping along this area with your tongue you may bring forth a
geyser. If you are not skilled and you want to please him in a hurry
I suggest that you get him off in this manner in order to become
familiar at first hand with the nature and delight of his climax.
As he is getting ready for climax you will note changes in his
penis. These signs will be the same every time he climaxes so that
you can prepare for his cum properly. The head of the penis may
swell somewhat larger then it is during the normal course of his
erection. He may thrust his hips forward as he wants to send his
body hurtling out his penis with his cum. And for most men,
immediately prior to the cum, there will appear at the tiny, lovely
lips at the tip of the penis a clear drop or two of fluid. When you
see this or feel the opening at the meateus through his condom you
know that the moment of truth is at hand. Launch the torpedoes, full
cum ahead!
Where should you be when you are sucking his penis? Between his
legs, on top of him, in a sixty nine position? Where? Because of the
structure of his penis, as well as the structure of your mouth,
lips, tongue, and teeth, you can provide the highest degree of
sensation to yourself and your partner by kneeling between his legs
and approaching his penis from the bottom rather than from the side
or the top.
Place his stiff penis inside your mouth but do not tighten your lips
around the shaft. With your head begin a circle motion. The penis
will slide to different places in your mouth as you continue the
circle motion. Watch your teeth on this one. A kneeling position
will suffice but it is also effective when your partner is on his
back and your head is directly over his penis. The circle should be
executed in both clockwise and counterclockwise motions in a slow,
purposeful manner.
With your man sitting in an elevated position and you on your knees
in front of him lift his hard penis to reveal his balls. With your
tongue find the underside of his balls. Now, while resting his balls
on your wet tongue, lick in an upward motion to the very tip of his
penis. It is permissible to use your hands in this technique. It is
better to do this technique several times in succession-like licking
a lollipop or ice cream cone.
Right now lets discuss a technique that is probably the most common
penissucking technique in the world. Take his penis in your mouth
but not deeply. We will get to deep throating later on. It's great,
not over-rated, but if you want to be an expert at deep throat,
start with the right techniques and work your way down, so to speak.
Take his penis in your mouth by sliding your moistened tongue
lovingly over the head until your lips close around the shaft at the
point just behind the corona. Don't just open your mouth and close
it around his penis. Slide it in. He will enjoy it much more. Encase
the shaft of his penis with your hand. Remember the shaft is
relatively insensitive to any kind of stimulation. By enclosing his
penis with your hand you give him the sensation of having his penis
encased.
Now you have several options. Try twisting your head from side to
side making sure your moist lips stay in contact with the coronal
ridge. While doing this gently move your hand up and down the shaft.
When he climaxes he may want to push your head further down the
shaft of his penis. He wants to envelop you with his penis. As you
are learning his climax, you will miss the fine points if you deep
throat at this time. Instead gently suck around the corona as he
climaxes so that you can intensify his pleasure and increase the
force of his orgasm. As you gain more experience you will be able to
tell exactly when his climax is approaching.
There is one further refinement to this basic technique, which will
heighten his orgasm. If you place your thumb at the very base of the
penis in such a way as to block the tube through which the cum
spurts, the semen cannot escape even though he is spasming and going
through the reflex action of ejaculating semen.
If at the same time you suck vigorously on the head of his penis you
can delay his cum for several long moments. When you finally allow
the cum to spurt it will last much longer and be just as intense as
a result. Even though you delay the cum for only a few short
moments, you will be surprised by the intensity of his cum.
These techniques are the basis of penissucking. Do not go beyond
them until you have become an expert, not only in the techniques
themselves, but also in the reading and interpreting of your
partner's responses to such a point that you know exactly how he is
getting off on what you are doing. When you have reached this point,
you are ready for the more subtle, more advanced techniques.
Don't be so slavish that you miss out on the fun of self discovery.
Find out what works for you and for your partner and make your
penissucking as individual as your signature. After all, you want
your man to pick you out in the dark among a hundred slobbering
penissuckers.
One of the first things you encountered when you first started to
suck penis was a gag reflex. Most men seem to want to force their
penis down your throat as far as they can get it. Particularly at
the moment when they cum!
Consider for a moment that the average length of your oral cavity is
three to three and a half inches while the average Caucasian penis
length is five to five and a half inches. The laws of nature would
seem to dictate that getting all that penis into your mouth is an
impossibility.
It can be done. If you understand your anatomy you will begin to
understand the requirements that allow you to take his hard penis
into your mouth and down your throat. The biggest obstacle to taking
all of his penis down your throat is the fact that there is a bend
of almost ninety degrees behind your tongue leading down into your
throat. So the first thing to do is get the penis past that angle.
Get past the angle of the dangle!
In order to practice this, get in a position where you can turn your
head in such a way that your mouth and throat lie almost in a
straight line. The best position to accomplish this is to lie on a
bed so that your head is near the edge with your body sprawled
across the bed so that your head is tipped sharply back. This
position will put your mouth and throat nearly in a line and will
allow your partner to approach you in such a way that insertion of
his penis can be made so deeply that his pubic hair presses against
your lips.
The natural tendency of the body is to gag when a foreign object
such as a deeply thrusting penis is being forced down your throat.
You can overcome this tendency by completely relaxing your throat at
the moment the insertion is made. It is equally important that you
maintain this relaxation during the entire deep throating.
Let him put his penis down your throat and hold it still while you
find the most comfortable way to proceed. Because of your position
you will not be able to move or to offer him any greater stimulation
than simply keeping your mouth tightly closed around his throbbing
penis. If you are able try, to stimulate his underbelly with your
tongue.
You will only be able to relax and take his penis in this way if you
completely trust your partner. Your partner is in full control. He
must initiate and maintain all the motion. This is the only exercise
in which you relinquish your control of the situation to your
partner. He will relish this for the simple fact that for the first
time he can insert his penis as deeply down your throat as he wants
to. Now your partner begins an in and out movement that is just like
fucking. He should start slowly, especially if this is a completely
new experience for the two of you. After all, if he hurts you he
cuts himself off from one of the great pleasures in life. His only
other requirement during this exercise is to keep the motion in the
same direction throughout this oral exercise, as there is simply no
leeway for him to vary the motion from side to side.
One other word of caution. Don't let your partner get carried away
at the moment he starts to cum. At that spectacular moment he will
be able for the first time to thrust his penis all the way inside
your oral cavity and that is the most important lesson of this
exercise! His only other requirement during the exercise is to keep
the motion in the same direction against your lips as he cums.
Because of your position in bed you will not be faced with the
problem of swallowing his cum. The reason is because he has gotten
his penis BEYOND your gag reflex! Without a condemn his cum will
shoot directly into your stomach! If both you and your partner
understand what it is that you are trying to do, as well as the
possible problems that may "cum" up along the way, no harm or
discomfort will happen to either of you.
It is possible that not everyone will learn the "deep throat"
technique, but this inability does not make you any less a
penissucker. You must allow your throat to relax completely while
your partner is thrusting his penis this deeply down your throat. To
do this long enough for your partner to completely get it off is
very difficult and may require lots of practice. It may be that you
will be able to take your partner completely down your throat, but
you will not be able to maintain proper relaxation of your throat
until he shoots his load. Hopefully your partner will understand
that this is not a rejection of him or of what he is offering you,
and it is my sincere desire that you not stop here and think that
you will never master the "deep throat" technique.
Cum is a curious thing. It's taste varies from person to person,
mild to tangy. It's good stuff nutritionally, being mostly protein
and minerals; it's the minerals that give the unique flavor. Take it
or leave it, there's nothing wrong with it, and it can turn out to
be quite a nice treat.
If you want to swallow it without hassle, take the climax deep in
your mouth, and remember, "in each and every case, the faster it is
swallowed, the less time the taste remains." Vomiting, noisy
hawkings, or dashing to the bathroom can be very rude and demeaning
to someone who's just climaxed, so if you don't want to swallow it,
remove it quietly afterwards, into a handy towel or handkerchief. Or
if you like, things can always be switched from fellatio to
masturbation or something else beforehand, but don't do this too
close to orgasm.
THRUSTING
So far I've been talking about fellatio where one person lays back
and gets sucked off. There's another kind too, where one person
slides his penis in and out of his friend's mouth. The Romans really
liked this kind of fellatio, and called it "irrumatio". It gives a
different experience to the person being fellated, because he's the
one moving. He's more tense and active, he's controlling his
experience much more so than in the other style, and he's moving his
penis in an action called thrusting, which in itself can be a
different and enjoyable sensation.
If you and your partner want to try this, have him lie down on his
back with a pillow under his head. Then you straddle him with your
hands and knees so that your crotch is over his face, and your head
is above his. Move around until you can easily fit your penis into
his mouth. He should make his mouth wet and form a snug ring with
his lips around your shaft, as he'd do for the sliding action
described earlier. He should suck on your penis, and otherwise keep
still.
Now you want to slide you penis in and out. This thrusting is
learned, and the only way to learn is by doing. Without moving your
knees or using your hands, move your penis with your hips. Ask him
to be patient and just experiment. Ask yourself, how in the world
can I get myself to move in and out, and try out your muscles?
Imagine a point at the base of your penis, and you want to cause
this point to push out and up through your penis, and them pull back
again. Everyone free of paralysis can do thrusting, if they want to.
Just take your time and explore. Follow your sensations - see what
feels good and do it again. Having an experienced guide or helper
can be very useful too.
That's basically all there is to it. You can add things like rocking
your pelvis from side to side or circularly (called "grinding"). Or
your partner can rock his head from side to side, or move it up and
back to meet your strokes, or use his tongue if he likes. Also,
there are lots of different positions, standing, kneeling, and so
on. Many couples like to work out there own ways. I'm saying, here
are possibilities; there you are- explore, take what you want, and
enjoy!
Some people can get into this second kind of fellatio, others don't
like it. A frequent complaint is that the mouth-partner felt abused,
that he had no control and the other thrust too deeply or violently,
causing gagging, fear, or other troubles. This needn't happen if the
two people can talk freely, and respect their own and each other's
wants and needs. You might be able to work something out with the
following suggestions:
Awareness: if you're thrusting, you can be aware of your friend's
comfort level, and with a little care, regulate the depth and
strength of your thrusts.
Pausing: try pausing for a moment between thrusts.
The Stopper Technique: if your friend is thrusting in your mouth,
you can have some control by wrapping one hand around his lower
shaft, to use as a stopper, allowing only as much as you like. If
your hand is at the base, this also adds a pleasurable pressure
against this body. You (or your partner) can use the hand to
masturbate the lower part of his penis as the top part slides in and
out, moving the hand down to the base as the penis slides in.
Mutuality: in irrumatio, the mouth-partner is likely to get bored,
and this contributes a lot to feeling abused. There are some
positions that allow mutual fondling, where he can caress you, and
in others the mouth partner can masturbate himself.
Can I make my seminal fluids taste better?
Macrobiotic nutritionists have actually done research on this
question, and the answer is in: you are what you eat. Common sense
dictates that if you taste good, your lover will want to eat you
more often, so improving your body's taste and smell should be
important to you.
In general, nutritionists say that alkaline-based foods such as
meats and fish produce a bitter, fish taste. Dairy products, which
contain a high bacterial putrefaction level create the foulest
tasting fluids by far. (Dissent: almost everyone I know says that
there is one worse than a high-dairy content - asparagus. You can't
miss the taste of asparagus-laced semen.) Acidic fruits, such as
sweets, fruits, and alcohol give bodily fluids a pleasant, sugary
flavor. Chemically processed liquors will cause an extremely acidic
taste, however, so if you're going to drink alcohol, drink high-
quality, naturally fermented beers (Rolling Rock or Kirin) or sake.
What are the contents of semen?
The question of semen content arises especially among persons who
regularly swallow semen, as in fellatio, and who are concerned about
calorie intake and nutritional substances. The average ejaculate
contains aboutonia, ascorbic acid, blood-group antigens, calcium,
chlorine, cholesterol, choline, citric acid, creatine,
deoxyribonucleic acid (DNA), fructose, glutathione, hyaluronidase,
inositol, lactic acid, magnesium, nitrogen, phosphorus, potassium,
purine, pyrimidine, pyruvic acid, sodium, sorbitol, spermidine,
spermine, urea, uric acid, vitamin b12, and zinc.
The caloric content of an average ejaculate is estimated to be
approximately 15 calories.
There is only one true way to do fellatio, and that's with
enthusiasm. You have to love what you're doing to him, either
because you love him or you love sucking cock. Loving both is best!
Faked orgasms have nothing on lackluster fellatio.
"The 'basilar squeeze technique' was mentioned in the article,
although not by that name. While it's true that strong pressure to
the urethra at the base of the penis before orgasm can prevent the
FLOW of ejaculate, once the proper brain response has been
initiated, ejaculation cannot be prevented! My caution, then, is
that your readers not think just by 'clamping down' that an orgasm
can be prevented or substantially delayed. A healthy male very
likely WILL ejaculate...either very forcefully through the urethra --
which can be a very different and pleasurable sensation; think of a
pinched-off garden hose - or internally, into the bladder, in what
is known as a 'retrograde ejaculation.' Ouch, sometimes. I'm not
condemning the technique, as it certainly has its uses, which I'll
go into below... I'm just urging fellaters not to overdo it.
There are actually two stages of male ejaculation: 'pre-ejaculation'
and ejaculation proper. I personally can't really tell the
difference when they occur (my mind tends to be a bit, uh, occupied
at the time) unless I experience the first without the second.
Orgasms start in the mind, after all.... it's the
cortex/midbrain/body link that actually produces those spectacular
physical results. Most men can experience pre-ejaculation without
proceeding right on to ejaculation, although it can take a lot of
self-control to find out. The sensations of pre-ejaculation are
almost identical to complete orgasm...except the 'floating', inward
turn of the mind can actually last longer. It's here that the
squeeze technique can be useful, if the fellater STOPS stimulation,
and *gently* squeezes the base of the penis just moments before full
orgasm.
It's worth noting, too, that men can have a sort of 'multiple
orgasm' in this way: they can feel like they've come, without
actually ejaculating fully...and then after a few seconds without
stimulation, go on again for some time...repeat as much as you can.
When complete orgasm with ejaculation finally occurs, if it occurs
in a similar manner as the previous 'pre-orgasms', it can be a very
slow, drawn-out, gently powerful orgasm, rather than the short sharp
shocks of a wham-bang bout of lovemaking."
Proper breathing is also a factor. When you relax your throat and
your partner is thrusting, you can not draw a breath while the penis
is in your throat. Being able to relax your throat is one half of
it, but taking breaths as your partner pulls back, or as you pull
back is the other half. This requires some practice. The first
reaction is to panic - that you might not have enough air or be able
to breath normally, but I have found that most of the trust issue
comes from knowing that your partner will pull back at certain,
predictable intervals - this gives you time to take a breath or
breath out. In my own case, I breath in on one pull, breath out on
the second, breath in on the next, etc.
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